Marcosian mode: Duterte threatens to arrest water execs ‘one night’ Filipinos turn Taal Volcano ash, plastic trash into bricks PLAY LIST 01:40Filipinos turn Taal Volcano ash, plastic trash into bricks01:32Taal Volcano watch: Island fissures steaming, lake water receding02:14Carpio hits red carpet treatment for China Coast Guard02:56NCRPO pledges to donate P3.5 million to victims of Taal eruption00:56Heavy rain brings some relief in Australia02:37Calm moments allow Taal folks some respite Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next MOST READ McGregor blasts Cerrone in 40 seconds in UFC return 787 earthquakes recorded in 24 hours due to restive Taal Volcano Reyes says he was ‘asked’ to leave Maliksi out of SEAG roster Kawhi Leonard, Clippers rally to beat Pelicans Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. Tim Lewis. Photo by Randolph B. LeongsonGilas Pilipinas resumed team practices on Thursday and curiously welcomed a new face in coach Tim Lewis.The British mentor, who was last seen in the country mentoring Thailand in the 2017 Seaba Championship, was on hand at Upper Deck Gym in Pasig and ran a few defensive drills with the squad which is preparing for the 2017 Fiba Asia Cup in August.ADVERTISEMENT LeBron James scores 31 points, Lakers beat Rockets Indian national gunned down in Camarines Sur Coach Chot Reyes explained that Lewis’ involvement is just temporary, saying he’s been in communication with the former Thailand coach since the regional tiff in May.“We’ve been talking since the Seaba and he’s doing some work now with TNT. So I said, ‘Since you’re in town, we might as well take advantage of your knowledge.’ And he really wanted to come and watch the Gilas practice. There are things that he does that we feel is gonna be useful for us and so that’s why he’s here,” he said.FEATURED STORIESSPORTSEnd of his agony? SC rules in favor of Espinosa, orders promoter heirs to pay boxing legendSPORTSRedemption is sweet for Ginebra, Scottie ThompsonSPORTSMayweather beats Pacquiao, Canelo for ‘Fighter of the Decade’Lewis also said that he’s in the country only as a guest and thanked as Reyes for allowing him to subject the national team to some defensive schemes.“It’s just a casual basis. I’ve come over as a guest to (assistant coach) Josh Reyes and be around him, talk about basketball. And then his dad offered me the opportunity to be on the floor,” he said. “It’s a very loose situation, so there’s no contract. I’m glad to help out. It’s just an opportunity to coach basketball somewhere else in the world and I appreciate them giving me the opportunity.” End of his agony? SC rules in favor of Espinosa, orders promoter heirs to pay boxing legend ‘I’m out!’: PewDiePie releases last video before taking break from YouTube LATEST STORIES Having a first-hand look at the Gilas pool, the 49-year-old coach believes that despite sending a youthful cadet squad in the 2017 Southeast Asian Games, the Philippines is still going to be the team-to-beat no matter what.“You got so many tools, so many weapons, so much depth at each spot. And the way that you play is at an uptempo style of basketball cause you’ve adopted because of the lack of size at times. And now, you have the additions to the size as well,” he said.“You’re never scared to bring in these younger guys, too, to put them on the face of adversity and challenge them and see whether they could take it. It’s impressive. It’s a well-oiled machine. It’s a really good job done by you guys. I think it’s exciting times for Philippine basketball.”ADVERTISEMENT OSG plea to revoke ABS-CBN franchise ‘a duplicitous move’ – Lacson View comments
OSG plea to revoke ABS-CBN franchise ‘a duplicitous move’ – Lacson Redemption is sweet for Ginebra, Scottie Thompson Jake says relationship with Shaina ‘goes beyond physical attraction’ View comments Photo by Tristan Tamayo/ INQUIRER.netFor all the milestones that his team has achieved this season—an elimination round sweep and a first finals appearance, Lyceum coach Topex Robinson still doesn’t think the Pirates are the heavy favorites in the NCAA Season 93 championship series against defending champion San Beda starting Friday at Smart Araneta Coliseum.For one, Robinson said his team didn’t have the championship culture that the Red Lions had established over the past 11 seasons in the NCAA, where San Beda had lost just twice in the finals.ADVERTISEMENT Coco’s house rules on ‘Probinsyano’ set LATEST STORIES Margot Robbie talks about filming ‘Bombshell’s’ disturbing sexual harassment scene Jo Koy: My brain always wants to think funny It’s too early to present Duterte’s ‘legacy’ – Lacson Jake says relationship with Shaina ‘goes beyond physical attraction’ Kiss-and-tell matinee idol’s conquests: True stories or tall tales? The Pirates are the latest challengers to the throne of the Lions, whose iron-fisted grip of the league has thrown traditional powerhouses San Sebastian and Letran under the shade for most of the past decade.READ: Fernandez knows ‘underdog’ San Beda will come out big vs LyceumFEATURED STORIESSPORTSRedemption is sweet for Ginebra, Scottie ThompsonSPORTSMayweather beats Pacquiao, Canelo for ‘Fighter of the Decade’SPORTSFederer blasts lack of communication on Australian Open smog“It’s obvious that they’re determined to win,” said Robinson, who was part of the television panel that called the Lions’ 76-71 win over the Stags in a knockout duel last Tuesday.“At the end of the day, they’re the stronger team and they have more experience than us. Their experience showed against San Sebastian and we know what we have to face. They have a good group of guys that are motivated to show that they are the defending champions.” “That time, San Sebastian was the favorite, but San Beda came and won so we might see history repeat itself,” Fernandez said. “For us, we’ll just take it one game at a time.”Interesting matchups abound in the finals with Lyceum star CJ Perez and San Beda’s Robert Bolick all eager to prove their worth in the NCAA’s biggest stage.“The excitement is there, but it’s a matter of channeling it to positivity,” said Robinson. “We know it’s our first time to be in this level and it’s really unchartered territory. We know that we got nothing to lose and we’re happy where we are.”Sports Related Videospowered by AdSparcRead Next Lifesavers up even minus star import MOST READ Don’t miss out on the latest news and information. Carpio hits red carpet treatment for China Coast Guard PLAY LIST 02:14Carpio hits red carpet treatment for China Coast Guard02:56NCRPO pledges to donate P3.5 million to victims of Taal eruption00:56Heavy rain brings some relief in Australia02:37Calm moments allow Taal folks some respite03:23Negosyo sa Tagaytay City, bagsak sa pag-aalboroto ng Bulkang Taal01:13Christian Standhardinger wins PBA Best Player award The regular season results, however, point to the Pirates as the team to beat in the finals.They clobbered teams by double-digit margins in 13 of their 18 wins. And although they did come away with a couple of narrow wins against the Lions, the Pirates were in control for most of those two games.READ: Robinson admits San Beda ‘stronger, more experienced team’“Right now, Lyceum is the best team (in the league) because they beat us twice,” said San Beda coach Boyet Fernandez, on his second stint as Lions coach after steering the team to back-to-back crowns in 2013 and 2014. “We’re the underdogs in the series. But again, we’ll find a way to win.”The Lions are no strangers to these type of situations even in the midst of one of college basketball’s most dominant runs with Fernandez recalling the time San Beda overcame a San Sebastian team led by now PBA star Calvin Abueva.ADVERTISEMENT
The most controversial and divisive national issue in Liberia now is the mid-term senatorial elections. “Should they be held now or postponed until Liberia reaches the zero Ebola infection point?” This is the question that divides households, communities, institutions, political parties, and the religious community across the country. My personal and candid opinion is that the mid-term senatorial elections should not be held now under the prevailing Ebola crisis that is affecting every aspect of our national life and survival. I state clearly below why I take this position.We observed the good news that the rate of infection is declining in many parts of the country with some notable exceptions. That phase two is a great opportunity and is at the same time a big risk. This is a great opportunity if we accelerate our gains and kick this deadly virus out of the country and the region, and a grave risk if we become complacent.I added my voice to many calling for an acceleration of our combined efforts (the government, health workers, media, internal partners, inter-religious community, teachers, civil society organizations, traditional leaders, security forces, and communities) to fight and defeat Ebola out of Liberia and the region. Let there be a district to district, community to community and house to house campaign emphasizing the risks as well as the opportunities in phase two of the war against Ebola.How then do elections fit in with the need to heighten our combined efforts to eradicate Ebola? The question of the mid-term elections in Liberia now has two sides and serious implications. Those who want elections now generally use two main arguments. That if we do not have the elections we run the risk of a constitutional crisis. The argument goes that come January 6, 2014, the full bench of the House of Senate will be incomplete and the organic law of the land (the constitution) would have been violated. On account of this some people are even entertaining the idea of an interim government.The other argument is that though Ebola is here and is killing a lot of people yet most offices are still operating, markets continue to function, religious Services take place regularly, entertainment places are open, and people generally move about freely throughout the length and breadth of the country. All of the above activities involve the movement and gathering of people. And these two are some of the key means of spreading Ebola. If they can continue with some controls and success therefore elections can be held with similar controls put in place.Those of us who oppose to elections now do so for the following reasons. Our constitution allows that when there is a state of emergency wherein “there is a threat or outbreak of war or where there is civil unrest affecting the existence, security or well-being of the Republic amounting to a clear and present danger” certain exercises and functions of state and its people such as their rights, freedoms and guarantees may be curtailed or suspended (article 86 of the Liberian 1986 constitution). Most Liberians and international partners agree that Ebola is a form of war that poses a clear and present danger. Can one have elections in time of a civil war raging on? And if we cannot will we be violating a constitutional provision? The answer is no. Necessity dictates that one cannot have elections in time of war.Another reason is that an election of the mid-term kind requires campaigning that in turn involves mass movement of people, gathering in numbers and lots of sweating in some instances. Elections in Liberia and their associated activities more than those of running offices, market, religious and entertainment places, increase the risk of Ebola inflection spread. There is a real danger, which we pray against, that the elections might roll back a little some of the gains we have made in the fight against Ebola!The mid-term elections might send the wrong signal that the Ebola Virus Disease is no longer the threat to national life and existence it was a month or so ago. They might detract from the intensification of the war against Ebola. We are at a critical point in the fight against Ebola when we should be concentrating all our energies on bringing the rate of infection to zero. We should not permit anything to distract us even just a little. Furthermore elections may sound incentive to those who (and their families) are still battling with the onslaughts of Ebola.In my view, if we can accelerate and focus our fight at the community level, employing all of the partners (local and international) and resources available to us, and bring down the spread of the disease to zero then all the other good things shall follow: elections, opening of our learning institutions, and the much needed infrastructural, agricultural and other economy activities. Mid-term elections might just distract and harm the cause of fighting Ebola.Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
The fate of 13 persons that were sentenced to life imprisonment for their involvement in staging mercenary activities in neighboring La Cote d’Ivoire now rest with the Supreme Court.Following compelling arguments yesterday by attorneys for prosecution and defense, the fate of the 13 convicts now rests in the hands of the Supreme Court.The attorneys argued whether or not the High Court should reverse the 2013 decision by Criminal Court ‘E’ at the Temple of Justice that convicted the 13 men for mercenary activities.The lawyers’ arguments were based on the defense team’s appeal against Judge Emery Paye’s judgment to the Supreme Court.Judge Paye, in early June 2013, conceded with the jury unanimous guilty verdict and sentenced the 13 men to life imprisonment. The defense team rejected the verdict and announced an appeal before the High Court. After the lawyers’ arguments, Chief Justice Francis Korkpor informed the parties that the court would reserve its ruling on the matter.Prosecuting attorneys in the case are asking the High Court not to disturb the unanimous verdict and the life sentenced given by the court to the convicted men.The state pointed to four separate witnesses who testified during the trial to seeing that the convicts were based in the Garlos Town including the Thai forest and controlled areas in that country.They also cited witness testimony that the convicted men used weapons such as M-50, RPG and Ak-47 to fight in La Cote d, Ivoire.The prosecution also highlighted prior incidents in 2010 to 2012 regarding the killing of several persons including seven United Nations peacekeepers by the convicts. “All of our witnesses like Thomas Glaider, Pascal Kollie, and Baryee Gaye, corroborated each other’s testimonies and hence the court has heard and tried the fact and could not hesitate, but to arrive at that decision,” they further alleged.They added, “Witnesses, Inspector Savior Howard of the Liberian National Police, visited the crime scene as opposed by the defense lawyers that none of the investigators visited the crime scene both in Liberia and La Cote d’Ivoire.”Defense Attorney, Cllr. Tiawon Gongloe, on the other hand, urged the High Court to reverse the judge’s ruling and release the convicts, “because the lower court ignored the fact that the material evidences given in the case were based on hearsay, particularly the evidence presented by Thomas Gladior, whom they alleged was the source of the information that led to the arrest and indictment of the defendants.Cllr. Gongloe then argued that the evidence produced in the case did not prove the indictment as to the existence of a training camp in Liberia.Gongloe cited testimonies given by two witnesses from La Côte d’Ivoire regarding the 13 men’s involvement in their country’s civil conflict was based on hearsay, meaning they were told by someone else.They also contended that there was not a forensic report presented to the court to establish that the 13 men used guns.Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
Saints standout Jon Joe finished with 18 points but was quiet until the fourth quarter when he scored six points during the critical final minutes. Miller scored 12 for the Saints. “We got more movement out of Jon (in the fourth quarter),” Robbins said. “We actually talked about it at halftime, that we wanted more movement than we were getting.” Friday’s game was a treat for fans of half-court basketball, but the flow didn’t allow the Saints to ever pull too far ahead of San Luis Obispo. San Dimas led only 19-17 at halftime and it was a one-possession affair for most of the second half until the final three minutes. The Saints took a 32-29 lead into the fourth quarter, courtesy of a 3-pointer by Robby Schroeder. email@example.com (626) 962-8811, Ext. 2233 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! “Honestly, I kind of expected it (to be close) because they’re a pretty good team,” Robbins said. “I just think our kids don’t want to quit yet. They want to keep playing.” San Dimas improved to 19-9 and will play Centennial of Corona, a 77-27 winner over Saddleback, in Tuesday’s second-round game. SAN DIMAS – It might have been too close for comfort, but on a night when most San Gabriel Valley high school boys basketball teams saw their seasons end, San Dimas coach Bruce Robbins was simply happy to be moving on. San Dimas couldn’t shake visiting San Luis Obispo on Friday until the final minute of a 49-40 victory in the first round of the CIF-Southern Section Division II-A playoffs. San Luis Obispo took a 34-32 lead early in the fourth quarter on a 3-pointer by Conner Reese. San Dimas got the lead back for good moments later when point guard Donte Miller drove the lane and finished with a layup over defenders for a 36-34 advantage. The Tigers wouldn’t go away and closed to within 40-38 in the final minute. But San Dimas’ Nick Schultz clinched the victory with a baseline jumper with 40 seconds left. “What we had talked about this week was to get into gaps and not settle for 3-point shots,” Robbins said. “We kind of, for the first part of the game, settled for 3-point shots. Then, in the fourth quarter I think, we quit taking the first 3 or second 3 that came along. “Donte Miller got into gaps with the dribble because they didn’t have somebody quick enough to keep him from getting into the gaps.”
Hoover already has won the CIF-SS Eastern Division title, the prestigious Five-Counties title, along with the Colton, Dick Comly Invitational (Victor Valley) and North Torrance Tournament of Champions titles. Last year Hoover shined at Masters, then went to state and lost his first match. He then won three consecutive matches before losing to the No. 1 seed, who also previously lost. Hoover finished two wins short of placing. That was unacceptable to him, and he is not looking to duplicate that agonizing experience. Despite last year’s painful effort, he is confident. The 6-foot-2, 285-pound pin machine is so dedicated to wrestling that he hasn’t played football since his freshman year, despite the urgings of Scorpion coaches. “I’m confident,” Hoover said. “I think I have a mental edge over a lot of the guys at Masters because I’ve beaten a lot of them.” Added Scorpions coach Dave Stidham, a former Pacific High School wrestler: “Ryan is just a beast on the mat and I have the separated shoulder, broken finger and black eyes to prove it from wrestling with him.” Hoover, who has a 3.7 grade point average, is being pursued by many schools, but said he is most interested in Oregon State. The preliminary rounds will begin this morning, with the finals scheduled for Saturday at 3 p.m. The top eight in each weight class advance to the state meet next week in Bakersfield. Besides Hoover, there are many other wrestlers to look for today and tomorrow. At 103 pounds, Huntington Beach Marina’s Victoria Anthony will wrestle. Carter athletic director Joe Paluba said Anthony is believed to be the first girl to ever wrestle in a Masters Meet. Also wrestling at 103 pounds is Arroyo Valley’s Javier Palacios. Among the other area wrestlers to watch are Ryan Eagleson (Rancho Cucamonga) and Jose Briseno (Arroyo Valley) at 130 pounds; Jesse Moreno (Cajon) at 135; Cody Bollinger (Sultana) at 140; Isaac Whisner (Rim of the World) and Jarrod Brooksher (Sultana) at 145; Vinny Maraj (Yucca Valley) at 152; Eli McWatters (Sultana) at 160; Greg Fehrs (Claremont) at 171; Justin Correa (Hesperia) at 189; Zach Sweeney (Sultana), Marcus Johnson (Diamond Bar) and Danny Reyes (Hesperia) at 215 and Marcus Austin (Etiwanda) at 285. This is the first time Carter has hosted the event after about a quarter-century at Fountain Valley High School. Carter athletic director and co-meet director Joe Paluba said he expects a total of 3,000 fans to attend the two-day event. There will be a total of eight mats in use today, with six of them borrowed from Upland High School. Six separate food vendors will be operating to feed the horde of fans and wrestlers. 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! The difficult road to the CIF-State Meet continues today for Hesperia’s Ryan Hoover and hundreds of other Southern Section wrestlers. Hoover will try to defend his heavyweight title at the CIF-Masters Meet being held today and Saturday at Carter High School. And, excuse the pun, for Hoover no less than cleaning up will do when it comes to Masters and State competition. “I have a lot to prove,” said Hoover, who is 48-0, ranked first in the state and 12th in the nation. “Anything less than a state championship will be a disappointment this year.”
6 6 6 6. Nicolas Otamendi (Manchester City) – City parted with another eye-watering fee to secure the services of the Argentine defender and Manuel Pellegrini will be hoping he has finally identified the long-term centre-back partner for Vincent Kompany. Only Lionel Messi and Cristiano Ronaldo received more than Otamendis seven Man of the Match awards in La Liga last season. He may, however, have to fill in at right-back for the league leaders at Palace if Bacary Sagna is sidelined through injury. 5. Michail Antonio (West Ham) – Widely regarded as the best player in the Championship, Antonio snubbed offers from other second tier sides to pursue his Premier League dream. Along with fellow new recruit Victor Moses, he will be expected to inject some pace into the West Ham attack. Can he help the Hammers transfer their stunning away form into a first home win of the season against Newcastle on Monday night? The Premier League returns this weekend after the first international break of the season and, with Manchester United v Liverpool live on talkSPORT on Saturday, it’s fair to say it’s back with a bang.A caveat to this weekend’s set of fixtures will be the prospected debuts of several new signings following the trials and tribulations of transfer deadline day.Premier League clubs splashed out nearly £900m between them during the summer window and a handful of the heftier purchases are in line for their top flight bows over the next few days.But which new signing are you most excited about and who will make the biggest impact? 1. Anthony Martial (Manchester United) – No pressure, kid. The most expensive teenager in history could make his United debut this weekend in traditionally their biggest fixture of the season Liverpool at home. Could Louis van Gaal be tempted to throw him into the mix straight away? Even the Dutchman admitted earlier this week that the astronomical fee Monaco received for his services was ridiculous. Good luck to him. 6 4. Heung-Min Son (Tottenham) – The latest South East Asian import to the Premier League will be hoping to be more Ji-Sung Park than Shinji Kagawa. He was brilliant for Bayer Leverkusen in the Bundesliga, with the physical demands of the German top flight perhaps a good indicator he should settle well in England. Spurs go to lowly Sunderland on Sunday still looking for their first win of the season. 6 3. Kevin De Bruyne (Manchester City) – The most expensive Premier League import of the summer has gone from £18m Chelsea misfit to £54m world-beater in the space of 18 months. Quite a transformation for a man Jose Mourinho shunted for temperamental reasons. The Belgian has a point to prove to more than a few people, and he can make a start during a tricky away fixture at Crystal Palace. 6 2. Virgin van Dijk (Southampton) – This is an intriguing one. Long earmarked as the finest player in the SPL with Celtic, the Dutch centre-back must now make the sizeable step up to Premier League football. A trip to West Brom is a relatively low key introduction for the tall defender but if he can strike up an instant understanding with captain Jose Fonte, Saints might be onto a winning formula.
AD Quality Auto 360p 720p 1080p Top articles1/5READ MOREGame Center: Chargers at Kansas City Chiefs, Sunday, 10 a.m.Disney reported an $11.5 million haul for “The Game Plan,” Warner Bros. reported $11.01 million for “Michael Clayton” and Sony reported $11 million for “We Own the Night.” Universal’s “The Golden Age,” a follow-up to 1998’s “Elizabeth,” was No. 6 with $6.2 million. Despite the rush of movies featuring top stars, overall business continued to slide. Revenues were down for the fourth-straight weekend, with the top 12 films taking in $85.5 million, off 14 percent from the same weekend last year, when “The Grudge 2” and “The Departed” led the box office. Though “Tyler Perry’s Daddy’s Little Girls” had a so-so opening earlier this year, “Why Did I Get Married?” joined his previous hits “Madea’s Family Reunion” and “Diary of a Mad Black Woman,” which also opened at No. 1. “Why Did I Get Married?” follows the domestic trials of couples re-evaluating their relationships during an annual reunion. Academy Awards heavyweights such as George Clooney and Cate Blanchett were no match for another of Tyler Perry’s populist tales. The Lionsgate release “Tyler Perry’s Why Did I Get Married?” a marital yarn whose ensemble cast includes Janet Jackson, Malik Yoba, Jill Scott and writer-director Perry, debuted as the No. 1 weekend movie with $21.5 million, according to studio estimates Sunday. Perry’s flick came in well ahead of Clooney’s legal drama “Michael Clayton,” Blanchett’s historical pageant “Elizabeth: The Golden Age,” and Joaquin Phoenix and Mark Wahlberg’s crime saga “We Own the Night,” which all pulled in modest crowds. “The Game Plan,” which had been No. 1 the previous two weekends, was neck-and-neck with “Michael Clayton” and “We Own the Night” for second-place. Exact rankings awaited final studio numbers today. “Tyler Perry is a mogul,” said Paul Dergarabedian, president of box-office tracker Media By Numbers. “There is a built-in audience base for Tyler Perry’s movies, no matter what time of year, no matter what the subject matter.” “Michael Clayton,” which went into nationwide release after opening in a handful of theaters a week earlier, stars Clooney as an attorney in moral crisis over a class-action lawsuit. “We Own the Night” features Phoenix and Wahlberg in the story of a black-sheep brother who makes amends with his family of cops to take on Russian drug dealers. In “The Golden Age,” Blanchett reprises her role as Britain’s Queen Elizabeth I as she faces a holy war with Spain. The studios are counting on Oscar buzz for Blanchett and Clooney to keep “The Golden Age” and “Michael Clayton.” “We think we really have a solid Oscar contender here, and we’re in for the long run,” said Dan Fellman, Warner’s head of distribution. Top movies Here are estimated ticket sales for Friday through Sunday at U.S. and Canadian theaters, according to Media By Numbers LLC. Final figures will be released today. 1. “Tyler Perry’s Why Did I Get Married?” $21.5 million. 2. “The Game Plan,” $11.5 million. 3. “Michael Clayton,” $11.01 million. 4. “We Own the Night,” $11 million. 5. “The Heartbreak Kid,” $7.4 million. 6. “Elizabeth: The Golden Age,” $6.2 million. 7. “The Kingdom,” $4.6 million. 8. “Across the Universe,” $4 million. 9. “Resident Evil: Extinction,” $2.65 million. 10. “The Seeker: The Dark Is Rising,” $2.15 million.160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set!
Parents of another boy find comfort in their son’s re-recorded cell-phone voice message, which they play for his cocker spaniel, Micky. “His tail wags after two years. He still knows his voice,” said Teddy Bell’s dad, Ted, about Micky. On a memorial Web site, friends send Teddy messages in heaven. Speakers often reach for tissues from boxes scattered on the floor. Group leader Diane Briones has lived through the death of her mother and brother, but her daughter Michelle’s death causes powerful aftershocks eight years later. “You can kind of move on with your life without intense pain grabbing you all the time. You still miss the person, but the pain is not as intense with a mother, a brother,” she said. “With Michelle, I still have horrible grief periods and will probably (have them) for the rest of my life.” An Antelope Valley man whose son was murdered in 1991 said he questioned how life anywhere could go on. “I found it hard to see how the sun could come up the next morning,” he said, asking that his name not be used. A parent in another support group, who had lived through 10 years of sunrises, gave him hope. Some people are so consumed by hate and anger that they want everyone to feel their pain, which they “wield like a machete or club,” the man said. They may end up intimidating others into avoiding them. Some siblings of deceased children are facing the double whammy of grieving for a brother or a sister and feeling neglected emotionally by parents mired in grief. While deceased children’s friends and co-workers, as well as the parents’ own friends, often rally around before and for several years after the funeral, they may eventually decide life should go back to “normal.” They mention the deceased child less and less, if at all. “You need support on the anniversary date – a tap on the shoulder, an ‘I know what today is’ or ‘I know what tomorrow is; I’m thinking about you,”‘ Alice Renolds said. For parents who lost a child but still have at least one other child, some mistakenly try to console them with that reminder. “I would react: ‘I don’t care if I have a million children; I lost my precious baby.’ ” A son and his wife have made her a grandmother. Briones reaches out to people who have lost an only child. “They (may) feel like they’re not a parent anymore, but they are,” she said. And of her friends the Renoldses, who have lost two children, She says the “pain is intensified all that much more. … It’s unthinkable.” Survivors say memories can surge in waves. “In the very beginning, tidal waves hit daily, sometimes hourly,” Briones said. “Further along in grief, after the first year, they hit on a regular basis but not hourly – maybe once or twice during the day.” Holidays, birthdays or movies may trigger the seismic onset. Grieving is not a tidy process, and couples may discover their styles clash. Some people distract themselves, overscheduling activities, reading only fiction or avoiding the deceased child’s belongings, while others deal with the loss head-on, quickly joining support groups and reading self-help books. The key, they say, is accepting differences. Recently Briones has received many calls from parents whose children have committed suicide. Some parents may feel stigmatized if a child has died this way, and they may hide their emotions or how the child died. “They’re afraid to say it,” she said of some parents. “There truly isn’t a stigma. It does not matter how our child died. We lost a child – that’s all that matters. Not how they died.” In addition to speaking frankly about her son’s death, Fleischer ponders the “what if” thoughts. She believes a Canadian regimen could have helped Erik if he and his parents had learned about it sooner. Traditional drugs and other therapy failed the young man, who shared his desperation with his parents. “He felt like he was losing his mind,” Fleischer said softly. Judy O’Rourke, (661) 257-5255 firstname.lastname@example.org SUPPORT GROUP The Compassionate Friends meet at 7 p.m. the first and third Thursday of the month at Fellowship Christian Church, 26889 Bouquet Canyon Road, behind the Goodwill store. Siblings as well as parents of deceased children are welcome. Information: Diane Briones at (661) 252-4654, or www.compassionatefriends.org. 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! SANTA CLARITA – They never would have chosen to become members of the exclusive group, but they are lifers and draw strength from each other’s company. The group is made up of parents and siblings of children who have died. The deaths propel them into a fourth dimension of pain and loss, and through some spiritual alchemy – and lots of talking and listening – they help each other heal. “Each time you talk about it, it seems to get easier,” Rita Fleischer said. “People sharing the same kind of pain you are in is what makes the camaraderie so special.” The causes of death are many: collisions, murder, medical malpractice, suicide. AD Quality Auto 360p 720p 1080p Top articles1/5READ MORECasino Insider: Here’s a look at San Manuel’s new high limit rooms, Asian restaurant Fleischer’s son Erik, who for 17 years was a typical kid, stepped into mental quicksand when schizophrenia gripped his mind. At 25, he took his life. He is gone, and his family needs a place to tend the great love for him that remains. Members of The Compassionate Friends listen but do not judge. In exchange for exposing raw feelings, tenderness that defies words, confusion, anger, shock and acceptance, the members get reassurance and confidentiality. Hundreds of people have participated in the annual candlelight walk organized by Alice and Tim Renolds, held in memory of their sons Tim and Danny, who were killed in a car crash six years ago Friday. On the first and third Thursday of each month, a small group sits in a circle with Alice and Tom when they let their guard down and ride tidal waves of memory, stand as beacons of survival to newcomers and, sometimes, defuse the pain with humor. Friends may wonder if it is safe to talk about the boys with Alice Renolds. They may dimly wonder how she can still be the boys’ mother when they are not here to be mothered. Looking deep into her clear blue eyes, the answer is plain. “Even if I cry when you talk about my kids, it’s OK; I’m talking about my kids,” she said. “You want to talk about them. All I have now are memories.” The tears are not barriers that warn “keep out.”
One of Donegal’s great characters celebrates his 40th birthday this weekend.And in typical selfless fashion, Frank Larkin is putting others before himself.Frank, who has Spina-Bifida, has been part and parcel of Letterkenny life for ……well 40 years! Despite his challenging lifestyle, he always has a smile and is never short of a word.On Friday night, July 8th, Frank will hold a special charity birthday bash with all proceeds going to two charities – the Donegal branch of the Spina-Bifida Association and Hydrocephalus Ireland.The bash will take place in the Radisson Blu Hotel in Letterkenny and promises to be a great night’s entertainment which includes finger food, a charity auction and raffles.Music will be by Hugho and Off The Kuff with the auction beginning at 8.30pm sharp. Frank said “I’m really looking forward to my 40th bash. The plan is to raise as much money as possible and to have a great night’s fun.“I think we could all do with a bit of cheering up at the moment. If anybody is feeling down then they should think about me – I’m nearly 40,” he laughedEndsLET’S BE ‘FRANK’ – IT’S GOING TO BE A GREAT 40TH BASH! was last modified: July 6th, 2011 by StephenShare this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window) Tags:40th birthdaycharityFrank Larkin